Career women are often put in that awkward position of applying for a full time job knowing full well that, as some point in the application process, they are going to have to bring up the subject of flexible working or 4 days a week. There are many other variables to negotiate but, for working… Read more Even before a mother starts her new job she is disadvantaged
Last week my daughter asked me to wake her up before I left for work so I could her hair for the school disco. As I tried to tame her thin blond hair into a fancy plait that would last the day she asked me why I had to go to work so early. I… Read more The view from the middle of the career ladder
My MBA has weighed heavily on my free time over the last 18 months so it was with a heavy heart that I wrote another assignment that concluded with the importance of our business bringing alive the company values for all employees, the importance of a proper strategy (not just a few words) outside of… Read more It’s official. I’m going to write about this shit.
When I was looking for work 4 years ago I applied for full time roles and then asked for 4 days once I was pretty certain I was getting the role. At the time I had a two and half year old and a one year old. My asking for 4 days pissed off 3/4… Read more Should I deny the existence of my kids for my job hunt?
It felt like my right as a woman, my ‘get-out-of-jail-free card’. I didn’t have to put up with this shit at work because soon enough I would be out of there realising my true ambition: being a mother, looking after children at home. Probably wearing an apron a lot. Just like my mother. Oh the… Read more Once upon time my ambition was to be a stay-at-home mum
I felt a rising panic. In the middle of a meeting that I was about to have to self-consciously exit, I had to whatsapp the friend that picks up our older children from school today as my husband had given the wrong information to the children about where they were going this evening. I then… Read more When I felt the emotional entanglement of so-called working mum’s guilt
Men have it hard and women have it hard. What is actually making it hard for all of us is the patriarchy. The patriarchy is responsible for the high levels of suicides in men and the low levels of pay for women relative to men. It is responsible for boys shunning pink and for girls… Read more Men have it hard
After half an hour knelt awkwardly in front of my theatre seat in the dress circle of one of the most beautiful Opera Houses in the UK I realised I couldn’t make it to the interval. One leg was numb even though I had quietly, painstakingly and self-consciously removed my shoes. I had already apologised… Read more Twin Sciatica
Have you ever considered that using ‘ambitious’ in a derogatory way to describe women is sexist? It’s a bit like how girls are described as ‘bossy’ but boys aren’t. Can you bring to mind any women you know that you’d describe as ambitious? Are they mothers? I bet not because once you become a mother, at… Read more ‘Ambition’ is not a dirty word
Out and about and in passing, people often ask me how I cope with 4. In fact, people often ask me how I cope with twins without realising that there are another 2 in the ether. I have to judge carefully whether or not to break it to them that I have 2 more depending… Read more How do I cope with two plus twins?